Meaning is the very hard to determine… because it is subjective, meaning will determine through your experiences and every one of us had a unique experiences. Meaning makes the world a little bit interesting from the moment of your first walk, to your first schooling, to your first crush, to your marriage, to your first child, to your resignation, and to your death. That is the totality of life is all about. I strongly disagree with the concept of life is all about “Pleasures”, Hedonistic in nature, that is not the totality of life but a mere necessity of life. This case is not all about “what meaning of life” but the writer wants to discuss that “meaning is subjective”. (walang maisip na intro haha…)
I’m Christopher Taguinod, a simple student who wants to become a Lawyer someday… and I keep on saying that “ang hirap talaga maging isang lalaki!) i quoted. being a guy is pre-determined by the society, when you said guy? its all about “muscles”, “soldiers”, “good-in-sports”, “hazardous-jobs”, and higit sa lahat “lalaki ang kailangan manligaw”. well, in some point tama ang society but in some cases din I disagree. Simple Marxist way of thinking is “if you dont like the world, change it!”. well I cook, naglalaba din ako, nagtatahi, etc. well that is not a way of changing the role of the guy in our society, but a way of showing the “maturity of a guy in our society”. Perfection Exists! but subjective, we are Perfect in others look or standard! We are good sometimes (sometimes kasi minsan hindi good sa paningin ng tao dahil sa actions mo). To be a guy, you have to be “Understandable” (wait! may salita bang understandable?, i doubt antok na ako eh. hahaha) you have to understand everything. sometimes we feel the metaphysical term of “Jelousy”, and i hate that feelings! but now nararamdaman ko ulet, but thanks to my frontal lobe of my brain for controlling what Amygdala functions(awts! may alam din ako sa anatomy no?! haha…) and that becomes me more mature than the other guy. To be a guy, you have to take care of your girl, if none?, then you have to take care of your family? hehe! you have to do things that makes her comfortable, secure, and loved. To be a guy, you have to do things to make a girl love you back.
This case is not about “changing” or “pagrereklamo na mahirap maging lalaki”, its all about expressing your good intentions, to know the Meaning of being a guy. para sa akin, if you like or love a girl take her in a beautiful scenery, like watching the sunset, watch the waves of the seas and how it interchanged until reaching the seashore, or watching the scenery of a greeny mountains (nakakasawa na kasi yung puro mall nalang haha). A common sayings said that “Behind every successful man, there is a great Woman of his life” the girl of his life, yung gusto mo batuhin ng pillow (ramdomly), throw corny jokes just to make her laugh (kahit naiinis na haha), the one na nagtititigan lang kayo then tatawa nalang siya (awts i debunked my philosopher! sorry Charles Sanders Peirce wala ka palang Metaphysics) because emotions travel in Space. awts. haha But aside all of discussions wala pa ako girl, i mean girl of my life.
I’m not that guy who is attractive in a glimpse of an eye (meaning salat sa kapogian) haha who most of the girl wants, im not that guy who has the ability to attract woman immediately… pinapakita ko lang yung real me. I’m the guy na pinapakita sa isang girl kung gaano ko pinangangalagaan even though the girl is busy… I said, you have to understand things. I’m the guy who supports her in all of her decisions, i just want her to feel that i am always here for her despite my absence. I’m the guy who encourage her to fulfill her dreams, because Relationship is not only “Affection” but in a mature sense, its all about “Helping each other to reach your goals in life”. not that guy who acts bigtime but expressing few reasons, I’m the guy who acts in a simple way but expressing it with true and good intentions. And I’m the guy who pray for her everyday before I go to sleep, to guide her, and always safe. i know its not perfect, but as i said perfection is subjective… and im trying to be perfect with you, with the real me. But in some person being in a relationship is a hindrance to their goals… parang nakakasira lamang sa behavior ng isang tao… well in some cases i agree! but that is the nature of being in a relationship… like challenges in life, we face everyday challenges and for making you strong you have to conquer it. For me, maybe I see the term realtionship as a Inspiration, a source of Motivation, and a Will to Power; helping each other to reach your goals in life.
Two songs na gustong gusto ko actually i have different versions sa playlist ko… yung “Just the way you are ni Bruno Mars” at “I wont give up ni Jason Mraz” which reflects on my personality and attitude… Just the way you are because I like or love a girl by being she herself, her Hair, her Eyes, and her Nose. haha I dont like girl who smoke… (kasi hikain ako hehehe). I like girl na malinis tignan like short hair with headband or ponytail style hair haha. malinis kasi tignan. I love you Just the way you are. “I wont give us” because that is me now! even though some circumstances preventing to show this feelings I wont give up! because kung gusto mo ang isang girl you said it like you mean it, not only for the sake of “acheche” (mahirap i-explain eh) haha understand it and wait for it. According to Saint Thomas Aquinas in his concept of “Rationes Seminales” explaining that everything will happen at the right time, God planted a Seed and it will bloom at the right time, anything you will meet in the future is already planted now! a concept of destiny in post modern chuchu times, although my concept of destiny is the way i look the past… parang, kung hindi tayo nagkakilala noon hindi tayo magkasama ngayon… continuous or series of cause and effect of happenings kaya tinawag ko na destiny na magkasama tayo ngayon. back to the discussion, I wont give up because if I like or love the girl you have to fight for it… not in a desperate way, but in the caring way alagaan mo siya, suportahan mo siya, irespeto mo siya. thats the caring way you should do if the time is not align right now. and if you love this girl make her smile everyday.
Meaning of being a guy is very difficult, as i said. you have to balance everything, you have to do some actions, you have to respect the girl. Meaning of being a guy is subjective… you will determine it on how you treat your surroundings and how you act or decide on things you needed most. Meaning of being a guy is not about Pleasures it is how you control things in balance… and go with the flow without changing your perspective. Meaning of being a guy is all about uniqueness of being a guy, like doing craziness things, reading in the stairway, curious in everything weird! haha. but the most important is the Meaning of being a guy is to express your feelings without a doubt, without any conditions, and without any reasons. Love her unconditionally.
Trust me.
P.S. di ko na na-proof read antok na ako eh haha.
Christopher P. Taguinod
June 2, 2014
12:40am